Now that my dad is over his cold, we’ve scheduled a visit at week’s end for him to see Mom. She continues to have periods of extreme animation, and the short videos that the nurses send us are truly wonderful to view. I am fearful that I have taken my hands off the reins in striving to care for her. She is well cared for but she is inaccessible to me for most of her days. I keep thinking of that aphorism: Out of sight, out of mind. It has allowed me to momentarily focus on ot